Wednesday, April 18, 2007
posted @ 10:01 PM
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
watched Meet the Robinsons last night after work....so cute!!!
its been a long time since i last watched a movie in the cinema...
*smilies* thank YOU
finally we're gonna have a DeVilzz meeting tmrw...haha like a thousand yrs we finally get to meet again...lots to update u all babes....haha...
posted @ 6:49 PM
Sunday, April 15, 2007
False Beliefs About LoveArticle credit to 'Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio'.
In the last programme, we talked about how commonly-held false beliefs in love fool us into thinking that in order to win in the mating game, one has to be good-looking, rich, popular or clever. In this programme, let's go into the many other false beliefs about love that bring us much insecurity, discontentment, loneliness, and heartache.
First, the belief that "I'm not good enough to be loved." Here, our low sense of self-worth makes us behave in two possible ways - firstly, it can make us settle for something that we're not passionate about, simply because we think there is nothing better for us out there. It can also cause us to accept mistreatment and abuse from our partners.And second, this can cause us to wreck perfectly tenable relationships through our insecurity, over-sensitiveness and jealousy. We literally chase our lovers away because we feel we're not good enough for them.
Next, the belief that "I'm not going to be able to get over an ex-partner". Now I'm not underestimating the pain of a breakup, but people who indulge this belief usually focus on the past instead of looking to the future. They replay good times, convinced that they have lost the love of their lives and they will never find happiness again. So they board up their hearts, spend their days reminiscing and moping, and get into all sorts of addictions just to artificially feel better. Again, this is "playing the victim", placing the responsibility for the pain on your ex and the past, while not reaching out for happiness yourself. This sort of protracted grieving also elicits sympathy from friends and relatives and may convince some of them that since you're hurting so much for so long, then you must've been damaged pretty bad. This kind of behaviour can become almost impossible to stop.Next is the belief that "I will not be happy, I will not be success until I find the love of my life". If you believe this, you're ignoring the other joys of life like family, friends, nature, and pursuing your passions and ambitions. You are not a "half" of a whole, doomed to drift around broken and incomplete until you find your other half. You are a whole and full person in your own right. Besides, if you believe that you have to be in a relationship to be considered a success, it's likely you'll slide into casual relationships without careful thought or genuine emotion.
*taken off from sher's bloggie :)
posted @ 6:24 PM
Wednesday, April 11, 2007
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
Enough money within her control to move out and rent aplace of herown even if she never wants to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
Something perfect to wear if the employer or date of herdreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
A youth she's content to leave behind....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retellingit in her old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .....
A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lacebra...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
One friend who always makes her laugh...and one who letsher cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
A good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyoneelse in her family...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
Eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and arecipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
A feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
HOW TO QUIT A JOB, BREAK UP WITH A LOVER,AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
When to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
That she can't change the length of her calves, the widthof her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
That her childhood may not have been perfect...but itsover...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why sheshouldn't take it personally...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Where to go...be it to her best friend's kitchen table...or a charming inn in the woods... when her soul needssoothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...What she can and can't accomplish in a day... amonth...and a year...
posted @ 8:16 AM
